The Explosive Child Part 1

I am very open with the struggles I face on a day to day basis.  In most cases, it has allowed me to connect with others who have faced or who are facing similar struggles.  I am forever grateful for these types of connections as it often makes life more bearable though frustrating.  My openness has also opened me up to criticism and funny comments that jokingly suggest I am not an adequate parent, that perhaps I’m too lenient, inattentive or whatever else one who feels s/he is a successful parent might think.  Let’s stop the mom-shaming and if you have not had to deal with the struggles I have, count your blessings and recognize that perhaps you are not the person to offer advice or judgement.

One of the biggest struggles we are dealing with these days is getting our children to behave.  I realized the other day that I feel like it’s sheer luck whether they behave or not in every situation.  Despite our attempts to raise respectful children who behave, that’s become our reality.  Let me tell you, “a good whipping” and “grounding” and “taking away all their toys” has not helped at all.  In fact, all of those things seem to make it worse.

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A friend introduced me to the book, The Explosive Child that I’m about one third of the way through as of today.  SO MUCH IS MAKING SENSE.  First of all, I identify with some of the difficult children described and feel my mother would have greatly benefitted from this book while raising me, if nothing else to assure her she did her best.  Second of all, I recognize many characteristics of my own children.  Thus far, it’s about identifying the struggle, not the behavior.  We can easily figure out the behavior–hitting, screaming, freaking out, being rude, talking back, ignoring, etc.  However, It’s the struggle that’s more important.  For example, my children like to yell and bicker in the morning.  Those behaviors are easy to identify.  The struggles are: they have difficulty waking up in the morning, they have difficulty getting dressed in the morning, they have difficulty eating breakfast in the morning, they have difficulty walking to the car in the morning, they have difficulty riding in the car on the way to school.

If you have a child for whom traditional consequences or reward systems do not help improve his/her behavior or who is easily frustrated and inflexible, you might want to read this too.  Basically, it is about identifying struggles and helping our children cope appropriately with their struggles rather than prevent a behavior.  Too often we focus on the behavior we don’t want rather than the reason behind said behavior.  Most children who struggle with behavior problems genuinely want to behave but struggle to do so appropriately and cannot help it. (And for the record, not getting enough attention is only 1 reason children misbehave.  I have read the Love Languages of Children and have made great efforts to fill my children’s love tanks in the way they need and still we have these behavior issues.)

Now, back to my reading!  I’m ready to learn what to do next as I continue to compile my list of struggles.

It’s my Plexiversary! #GloryToGod #PlexusFreedom

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A year ago, I thought my Aunt Kristi had gone crazy. She had gotten involved in one of those pyramid schemes with some crazy all-natural products that I knew were basically placebos–because come on, you gotta have man-made chemicals added to something to make it work, right? Oh how wrong I was! She made me try the pink drink and I lost 4 pounds in 4 days. Sure you can say it was water weight, but water weight comes back and it didn’t. I signed up a year ago today, after trying my sample, and began to learn all the health benefits of the products. Within 2 weeks of starting Slim, I had to decrease my insulin basal rates by 15% and my boluses by 50%. My fast food cravings disappeared, my caffeine needs seemed to decrease daily and I had more energy than I had had in years. I decided I better try some of the other products that did not come in my Welcome Pack, so I started with the ProBio5 because I had heard probiotics are important for health from multiple non-Plexus sources. I read up on candida overgrowth and leaky gut and figured I probably have this issues–I eat a high carb diet, lots of preservatives, and artificial sweeteners plus I have no choice but to treat low blood sugar with sugar. I slowly increased to 4 ProBio5 before bed and guess what happened. I lost 6 more pounds, my psoriasis almost completely disappeared, and my at least once a week tummy aches disappeared. I next added Bio Cleanse and X Factor and decided to see if I could stop by glucosamine chondroitin and turmeric supplements. I did and my joint pain did not return. The combination of Plexus products seemed to help significantly with this.
I was the biggest skeptic. I was convinced these products would not work. I was honest when I first starting sharing. I said to the people I encountered, “Look, I’m trying this pink drink. I don’t know if it’s going to do anything. I do know I have more energy and we’ll see if I lose weight or have any other benefits.” I obviously did :).

My children take ProBio5 and I already know that candida is an issue in Kailee’s body. She has experienced die off in the form of her eczema coming back full force. Gavin has had relief of his tummy problems that have plagued him since he was 1 year old. He also seems to be focusing better in school which to me proves there might just be a link between leaky gut and ADD/ADHD.

I haven’t even mentioned the business. My first month ended with 20+ customers. My 2nd month ended with even more, plus 7 teammates, a promotion and a nice bonus! My 3rd month ended with a team of over 20 and even more customers. My 4th month ended with even more of each and a promotion for me. My 5th month, I resigned from my teaching job to work from home. My 7th month ended with another promotion… You get the idea. There are not enough words to express how blessed my family has been by Plexus. I haven’t even mentioned the countless friends and family who have experienced similar and even better results. God put me on this journey to improve me, my family and the lives of others. I am blessed to change lives with Plexus.

Thank you to every single customer who has bought from me. Every purchase you make from me helps me work from home and have more time for my family. My family needed a change and as my husband has said, me being home has improved the atmosphere of the entire household–not just because I am happier, but because all 4 of us are benefitting from me having such flexible hours. #GloryToGod #PlexusFreedom

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Workouts 1,2,3,4 #200in2015

Seeing as how it’s January 2nd and I’ve already completed 4 workouts–I like workout 2-a-days–I figure I’ll save time and post them all here.

Workout 1 – 1/1/15, Chris Freytag’s 10 Pound Slimdown: Core.  Let me just say, my abs are super-sore today.

Workout 2 – 1/1/15, ExerciseTV’s Crunch: Dance Rhythms: Global Groove.  I have to admit that I was thankful Brady did not walk in on this one as I felt quite silly.  It was super-fun so I am sure I will do it again for cardio.

Workout 3 – 1/2/14, 1-mile run in 11:11 minutes at an 11:11-minute/mile pace.  I didn’t even make that up!  I felt great, like I could have probably done another mile, but I’m trying to ease my way back in without injury.  My feet are fond of stress fractures when I increase my running too quickly or for too long distances.

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Proof!

Workout 4 – Total Body Pilates. This is one of those ExerciseTV workouts that I got when they used to be available on iTunes.  It’s a relatively easy workout but does a number on the legs and abs so I LOVE it.

#200in2015

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If you followed my old workout blog, Commit to Be Fit, you know I did 100 workouts in 2011 and 200 workouts in 2012.  Well, I’m bringing it back and am going for #200in2015.  As mentioned in a previous post, I don’t make strict guidelines for what qualifies as a workout.  Some of my activities are 40 minute videos, some are 10 minutes.  I count them all, though in order to make my body stronger, I tend to stick to 20+ minute workouts.

Right now I am in the middle of Jillian Michaels’ Total Body Revolution.  I am working at my own pace and following my own schedule.  I am still in Phase 1 but plan to complete the program on April 1st.  I am also working to build back up mileage to running a 5K.  While in the past I have down the couch-to-5K program, this time I am starting at 1 mile twice weekly, adding .25 to each workout each week.  I plan to reach 3.1 miles on February 24th, just in time for prime 5K weather.  Once I reach that achievement, I plan to work up to 4 miles so that 5Ks are easier than practice :).

I also plan to document my workouts here, so know that almost daily there will be at least 1 short post documenting my workouts.  If I do two workouts, there may be two.  Hopefully this inspires others to be active–let me tell you, I am trying to become an endorphin addict again.  There is NOTHING like endorphins.  Endorphins and caffeine got me through the last deployment. :)

Agua, an unintentional experiment

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For years, I was completely dedicated to consistently drinking between 80 and 100 ounces of water every single day.  Until this summer… I became inconsistent, and I would have to honestly say that I drank on average 30-50 ounces of water daily if you counted my cup or two of coffee.

To be fair, you need to know that I was not drinking unhealthy options instead of water, I wasn’t drinking much of anything besides my pink drink and coffee.  Do you know what is absolutely necessary while taking the pink drink?  Drinking half your body weight in water.  I don’t weigh between 60 and 100 pounds, which means I have been living dehydrated for about 6 months.

I have been back on the 80-100 ounces of water for a couple of weeks now and can tell some differences.  1st of all, I have more stamina in my workouts.  2nd of all, I get full faster and seem to need less food despite working out more.  3rd, I feel hydrated.  I don’t know how to explain that feeling, but it’s noticeable when you haven’t had that feeling in awhile.

The moral of the story is to not discount the importance of hydration in overall health, wellness, weight loss, etc.  If you are reading this, I challenge you to start by logging how much water you are drinking each day.  If it is less than half your body weight in ounces of water, then increase that amount and expect to feel a huge difference.

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Resolutions? Bah Humbug!

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I hate the term “New Year’s Resolutions.”  Because so many people fail at these every year, I feel it has more to do with the term itself than the people.  I make those dreadful things every year, and for a few years, actually kept them, but my mindset was different.  I was focused on achieving a goal not waiting until the new year to make a change.

So, of course I have some of these goals this year.  Here is what I hope to achieve that should continue to fit in my lifestyle:

1. Start each day with a quiet time.  This can include reading a Christian self-help book, the Bible, my Bible study homework, Jesus Calling, devotionals, prayer journaling, etc.  I am not going to set anything specific for this time other than I want to spend it with God, focused on Him, building my relationship with Him.  When we get too specific, we set ourselves up to failure. This is a flexible but important goal that I began today when I got out of bed at about 9 or 10.

2. Complete 200 workouts in 2015.  I did this in 2012 after completing 100 in 2011.  I don’t care if this take several 2-a-days, 3-a-days, etc.  I am not picky.  I am not going to say a certain length makes a workout a workout–I have a couple of great yoga and pilates workouts that are 10 minutes long.  I am being flexible again to make sure I stick with it and do not feel like I cannot do it.  The underlying goal is to keep me motivated to workout all year long and set a positive example of love for exercise to my children.

3. Read 25 new books this year.  In 2011 I read 50, 2012-58, 2013-25, and 2014-50.  I am lowering it to 25 so I can go back and reread some favorites this year.  Once again, I do not stipulate length or anything.  Every book counts towards this. I recently happened upon this 2015 reading challenge that I am hoping fits into this 25 book plan–I feel like there will be some books that meet multiple criteria to take care of it.  If not, I’ll likely exceed 25 because I am eager to complete the list.

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4. Continue to work our Dave Ramsey Budget.  I wasn’t going to list this as an official goal as we have already been implementing it; however, I like even numbers and would rather end on a 4th than a 3rd :).

So these are my goals.  I have been spending time with God daily–just not always first thing–and working out all December so these goals should not be difficult to maintain.  I’ve been an avid reader and we have been working the Dave Ramsey plan since starting Financial Peace University this past fall so those should not be hard to achieve as well.

What are your goals for 2015?

I’m on acid–Ascorbic Acid ;)

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Did you know that Ascorbic Acid is just a fancy term for Vitamin C?  I didn’t either until recently!  Obviously Vitamin C is an essential nutrient for our health—hello immune system—and also provides great perks for our hair and skin.  Ascorbic Acid is one of the main ingredients in Plexus Bio Cleanse—167% of our daily value.  So… Maybe now would be a good time to add this awesome supplement to your regimen?

Get yours at http://www.PlexusByLJ.com

Sometimes I feel silly praying for the “little” things

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Last month we had a huge problem with our tiny chihuahua mix getting out of our yard.  It happened from time to time, but not regularly enough for us to worry that much.  Plus, she was easy to find, right outside our gate.  Well, about a month ago, she got out and was not easy to find.

I was home alone on a lazy Saturday afternoon.  My children were at my parents’ house, my husband was at his school lesson planning for the next week.  It wasn’t too chilly, so I put the dogs outside around 3pm and sat down to read on my iPad. When I finally looked up, it was pitch black in my house.  I checked the clock and it was 6pm.  I go to let the dogs in and Phoebe does not come running.  I look out front, call her name… NOTHING.

I am forever grateful for my neighbors who drove around and for my hubby who came home to help me look. I was a mess.  An absolute mess.  I was useless to the search efforts, so I did what I always do when I feel helpless: I prayed.  I physically got down on my knees and begged for God to bring her back.  I prayed and prayed and prayed.  And then, a little voice in my head distracted me.  Perhaps this voice has been in your head too…

People are losing children, for God’s sake, you are wasting God’s time praying about a dog.

There are much bigger issues in the world, you should pray for those.

Why should God answer this prayer over all the other people praying for sick loved ones or all the people who have experienced extreme loss?

I was just about to stop praying when I heard Phoebe’s bark close by.  She was back in our neighbor’s yard.  How?  We don’t know–there are no escape holes left in either of our yards after she got out everyday for a week after but for shorter time periods.

I have been struggling with trusting God for years.  I used to trust him completely and then bad things happened, and I became afraid to trust.  I have felt for a long time that God has been encouraging me to trust Him.  I don’t know if that’s why she came home at a turning point in what was going through my mind.  What I do know, is that He stopped me going down the negative path the way the devil wanted me too.  I am an optimist, but almost every time something bad has happened in my life, rather than turn to God, I’ve turned away in anger and fear.  This time, I began to, but He stopped me.  So what was I praying before the negativity jumped in?

Please bring Phoebe home safely.  Please keep her safe.  If she is not meant to come home to us, please comfort us and help us move on without her.

So if nothing else, I’ve learned to just pray all the time no matter what.  It does not guarantee the answer I want though it does keep an open conversation and relationship with God.  I will tell you that I prayed many prayers of thanksgiving after that little turkey returned home.  All 3 dogs have gotten a lot of extra attention and appreciation since the great escape as well.

Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. ~1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

But God has surely listened and has heard my prayer. ~Psalm 66:19

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. ~Romans 12:12

Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. ~Colossians 4:2

Seaweed? Say What!

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Did you know that seaweed—particularly brown seaweed—is a fat loss super food?  Yeah, obviously I didn’t know that before today either. :)

The benefits of seaweed have been used for hundreds of years to help prolong life while improving health and beauty.  In the last 10 years, international research has shown brown seaweed to be the most beneficial of all seaweed.  According to many holistic health experts, brown seaweed promotes fat loss, increases energy, heals the thyroid, relieves digestive disorders and prevents cancer.
Guess what!  Plexus BLOCK contains this awesome natural ingredient!
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“How long until you realize this just isn’t going to make money and you go back to reality?”

As you know, I walked away from a successful teaching career to delve into network marketing…

I know what some of you are thinking, “How long are you going to do this until you realize it’s time to accept it’s just not going to make money and go back to reality?” My husband keeps getting asked this, so I thought I’d address it myself.

To begin, I have to tell you that my husband has been my biggest supporter on this journey. He has had faith in me, even when I was unsure in the beginning. I am so thankful for him because without him, I may have given up. I may have missed out on the blessings of these products and this company. For that reason, it pains me to hear friends who have skeptical husbands. It makes it hard for our goals to come to fruition in that setting.

So how long? Forever. What you may not know is that I have been making 4 figures since my second month selling. I almost reached that in my 1st month. Financially, we are extremely blessed and are able to successfully work Dave Ramsey’s FPU program on our income. I am 3 levels away from extensive profit sharing and a free Lexus. If I told you how much I make by working very little, you would not even suggest I walk away or give up. In fact, you would tell me I would be crazy to even consider walking away at this point.

There’s no inventory, no parties, no major ambassador expenses. I get to work from home, volunteer at my children’s school, keep sick kids home to recuperate, take care of our home, and have time for hobbies without all the stress of a regular job. It’s awesome!

So here is what I would say to the skeptics of the world: do your research. There’s a reason so many people are going into network marketing. It’s an inexpensive way to start a home business, provide flexibility and financial freedom with unlimited earning potential. Do you know why most people who fail at network marketing fail? Because they quit too soon and do not believe they will reach the top. It takes belief and grit to get there (a killer compensation plan also helps). I have both plus the killer compensation plan. Anyone joining should commit to 3-7 years of working the business. I am committed to however long it takes. I love the flexibility this life allows already, and that I get to help people get healthy every single day. It is a gift to be able to help others. I am so thankful God directed me on this journey.

So if you have family or friends in this business, support them like you would anyone else who started a business. Share their posts to help them gain a larger audience, try their products, offer to host events and let them share information with your network. Tell your friends about what they do and their products and services. And, consider joining them and all the fun they are having.

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